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100 Things to Be Grateful For Here in November 2020

November 26, 2020, 12:04 pm

I woke up this Thanksgiving morning and made a list of the first 100 things that came to my mind when I thought of what I’m grateful for this particular Thanksgiving 2020. Your list will not be the same. And that’s okay. HAPPY THANKSGIVING and I’m looking forward to seeing you on the other side of the pandemic. Wife Kids Pixie the cat House Savings Berkeley Friendships Doctors, nurses, and front-line workers during the pandemic Doctorate Ongoing Work   Ongoing […]

Adhesive capsulitis

November 19, 2020, 12:44 pm

Hey. How’s the pandemic going for you? My short answer to that is “fine.” Here’s my longer answer. It’s a little less about Dar and a little more about consequences of parenting. Dar’s special school, like all other California schools, ceased in-person operations in March, ending Dar’s daily walks to Aquatic Park and/or local stores. Dar is a kinetic kind of kid who really appreciates going places, but during the pandemic, his mom and I have not been able to […]

Through a Scanner, Darkly

November 13, 2020, 7:10 am

Dark thoughts right now. Not worth committing to a blog. Dar has been screaming, screaming, screaming. In the abstract, you might think I could compartmentalize that. In the non-abstract, his behavior considerably worsens the behavior of the rest of the family, prevents us from working or fulfilling any other creative potential. Dark, bitter thoughts about how different our life would be with any 99% of other 11-year-olds. Dar is flopping hard. This means he throws himself on his back out […]

Welcome back to the blog!

November 5, 2020, 11:05 am

Hi everyone and welcome back! First, I never retired. After more than five years of (almost) weekly posts, I announced that I would be taking a little break in order to focus on the election. Sure enough, over the last few months, I’ve been spending my free time phone-banking, text-banking, and writing postcards. Of course, when you’re Dar’s dad, “free time” is a weird concept. On the one hand, I have more time than a lot of dads…on the other […]


August 28, 2020, 10:17 am

I don’t tell people it’s the most important election of their lifetime. They’re tired of hearing that. I tell them that it’ll be the best-feeling vote they ever cast. Probably at no other point in your lifetime will you get to pull one lever one time and feel that you have rejected 20,000 lies with the probability of 20,000 more lies, 200,000 deaths with the probability of 200,000 more deaths, and absolute disregard for the law, the military, the Constitution, […]

Boo Darley

July 28, 2020, 1:12 pm

Well, Dar’s brother has now been taught to see his own brother as Boo Radley. He’s 8. Too early, too late, or too white-saviory? This may be the first time I’ve mentioned this here, but I have kind of an awesome new website,, doing something a little different, essentially serving as the Louvre of cinema…with podcasts! I think you’ll love it and you should check it out. But I mention it here because as part of prep for it, […]


July 24, 2020, 10:28 am

Thanks fans for checking in here. Combination of coronavirus and scrambling for jobs has left me without enough time to update here. Just one more thing disrupted by this unusual time in American life. But like our national life, this blog will improve again at some point. Thanks for keeping the faith.

Treading Water

July 17, 2020, 10:42 am

That’s what we’re doing right now. Thanks for checking in. I have what I think is a great idea for a post but no time to write it this week. See you next time.

Monterey Without The Big Little Lies

July 9, 2020, 11:40 am

I’ve been a little short with the blog. I’ve been a little short with Dar. Well, he is a little short, although the “cute” years are going away very quickly. Last week we went to Monterey. It wasn’t an easy decision, but the universe seemed to be telling us to leave town. Dar’s home therapist canceled for the week, to be picked up Monday. R’s summer camp was canceled for the week, to begin on Monday. Electricians were replacing all […]

Scary Epiphany

July 2, 2020, 8:38 am

You ever have one of those epiphanies where it’s like “WHY didn’t anyone tell me this?” I mean, I read the literature, I read the email chains, I see the movies and shows so…why hasn’t this come up?! The other week I mentioned to you that my wife and I deserve Olympic Gold Medals for the fact that Dar has never gotten lost. He’s never run into the street. Our house is on a busy street. Remember, if he goes […]