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This Autism Awareness Month, Let’s Be Aware of Dreams

April 3, 2019, 9:14 am

This Autism Awareness Month, I suggest we be aware of the power of dreams. On Autism Awareness Day 2019, on April 2, Dar made sure to make us aware of him. He woke up screaming at Dark O’Clock, which was at about 5. Why does he regularly wake up sounding like you would sound at the moment you got Joe Theismann’s career-ending injury? (Picture your lower leg bending forward like it normally does forward.) Since he can’t tell us, we’re
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Republicans Are Using My 9-year-old Kid to Hurt America

March 27, 2019, 10:47 am

I can barely believe that Secretary of Education Betsy Devos has proposed, as part of President Trump’s new (months late) budget, to end ALL funding to the Special Olympics. Not just a trim, but an absolute end. Before Eunice Shriver created the Special Olympics in 1968, kids like my kid were just retards to be hidden from the world. The Special Olympics proved that there is a place for them to shine. And that led to other such things. But
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Wheels Are In Motion, Things Are Happening

March 21, 2019, 7:01 am

Who could forget when Seinfeld landed Babu in prison and, when he and Elaine visited him there, the moment when they flapped their hands and said “The wheels are in motion! Things are happening!” Well, I can’t forget it. Maybe life would be better if I could forget more Seinfeld moments, but I’ll never know. Wheels are in motion, things are happening. Yesterday I had a long phone chat with the head of special needs for the district. This would
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All of the 2020s

March 13, 2019, 8:58 pm

Hi and blessings out to you, loyal readers! There’s a lot going on in Dar-world, but this isn’t the time to report on it. I would love to write more about today’s first visit of my wife and me to a non-public school where Dar could possibly spend…the next 13 years. That would be ALL of the 2020s. If Dar goes there and if all is copacetic, Dar would round the corner on the end of the first quarter of
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Mama take this badge offa me

March 6, 2019, 12:53 pm

On Monday, I said a final goodbye to my father. That is, I looked at him made up and lying in his casket in the funeral home. An hour later, my wife and I watched as they lowered the casket into his concrete vault, and shortly after, lowered his casket and vault into his plot at the cemetery. But what does this have to do with Dar, the subject of this blog? Oh, we’ll get there! After Dad was first
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Gentry Lloyd Rowsey, 1941-2019

February 27, 2019, 1:00 pm

  My father died rather unexpectedly on February 16 at the age of 77.   When he moved in to the in-law unit of our house last summer, my wife and I understood that he had dementia, but he seemed physically fine. We thought he would last decades. Instead, according to the EMTs, he dropped dead at about 4pm on the 16th. He was discovered two hours later. The county coroner said that he died of “natural causes” and refused
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Death Interrupts

February 21, 2019, 8:00 am

I had a post (in my mind) about Dar’s first trip to Yosemite in winter but…there’s been a death in our immediate family. No, not Dar. Will post later. Thanks for your loyalty, readers. Share this post

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Bus Incidents

February 13, 2019, 12:48 pm

Have I told you about Dar’s bus incidents? Like the time he got suspended? I believe I said something almost in passing. But over this last weekend I was speaking with a fellow parent of an autistic child, and she was flabbergasted. She said that what happened to Dar could never possibly happen in Oakland (where her kid goes to school) without a major lawsuit. So I thought it might be worth it for me to dedicate an entire blog
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More and fewer discussions

February 6, 2019, 12:14 pm

Coming back to blogging a bit… I really appreciated the level of appreciation for last week’s blog entry…thanks. One takeaway is that I’m probably not going to entirely walk away from Facebook anytime soon…support network and all that. I appreciated people saying that my email was dispositive. I want that to be true but…Dar’s screaming is becoming a bigger and bigger issue. I was recently talking with his home therapist about it. She asked me about the 5am wakeups: “is
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Six-year struggle: over

January 30, 2019, 9:14 am

The blog is back, baby! Back big time! And with HUGE, TERRIFIC news to report. We’ve done something for Dar that only took…six years to pull off. I could tell you right away, but let’s build this up for a minute. First I want to say that I’m very pleased that I paused blogging for the last few weeks…I think it let me focus. Focus on what, you may ask? Well…Dar’s school’s lead “inclusion specialist,” whom I’ll call E, called
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