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A Garden Guardian?

September 20, 2017, 10:21 am

Sometimes it takes years for someone to point out something that, in retrospect, looks obvious. And with that epiphany, it’s like you’ve been living in a fog that has just lifted. That may have just happened yesterday. Maybe, maybe not. For the first time yesterday, I phoned in my presence on an IEP of Dar’s. (My phoning it in was not the epiphany.) My phone-presence was partly due to child-care arrangements, mostly because this wouldn’t be “the real IEP,” which
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IEP Prep, Sep 2017

September 13, 2017, 10:13 am

It’s autumn again, and parents everywhere have got their adorable progeny outfitted in the latest fashions, bedecked with brand-new school supplies, and situated to do writing that will reveal and indeed stimulate their remarkable growth and development. Uh, unless they’re a parent of a severely autistic child like mine. As he begins second grade, no one, least of all me, is expecting Dar to finish the year writing his own name, much less writing something that would demonstrate growth or development. Every year,
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Weekend of Labor

September 6, 2017, 7:26 pm

As a kid, Labor Day weekend to me suggested a final barbecue before the end of summer. These days, the thought of proactively adding more chemicals to the atmosphere seems mildly perverse. Besides, Mother Nature gave us West Coasters her own barbecue for Labor Day, not a finale but a harbinger: record temperatures and ashy smoke all over the coast plus Los Angeles’s biggest fire ever. (Good thing we know none of that could possibly have any relation to Hurricanes
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Dar in Car? Too Far

August 30, 2017, 12:30 pm

You know that parenting superstition that if you think of a catastrophe, and if you say it out loud, then you prevent it from happening? Here’s hoping that the following blog post has something like that effect. In this case, I’m hoping that bringing something to you, readers, will magically dispel the universe’s need for it to keep happening. In this case, we’re not really talking about a catastrophe, just Dar’s latest obsession. He has outgrown many of his previous
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Celestial Reasonings: Dar @ the Eclipse

August 23, 2017, 10:26 am

Is Dar my sun, or my moon? Or am I his? Granted, those weren’t pressing questions during the planning of our cosmic pilgrimage to Oregon to see a total solar eclipse for the first time in our lives. Bigger questions: will Dar be able to camp for the first time? Considering we’re camping on a friend’s friend’s farm, will Dar’s noises drown out the farm animals and annoy our lovely hosts? How will we manage Dar in general? Will Dar
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Waterworld 1.0

August 16, 2017, 8:00 pm

Until last weekend, Dar had never been to a water park. Then again, he wasn’t the only one. On our family’s drive out to Waterworld California, I asked wifey, “Have you ever been on a waterslide?” “Of course.” “When?” “Orlando.” “You went to one of the water parks there?” “Sure.” “Really? Cause when I was in Florida I went to four Disney parks and two Universal parks, but not the water parks.” “What is a water park?” After a little
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Dogless Dog Days

August 9, 2017, 11:21 am

There’s a new Vice episode about autism, and they pack a lot of good information into 40 minutes. The first featured kid, Griffin, is a lot more like Dar than most media representations of autism. Like Dar, Griffin is seven, male, non-verbal, uses a tablet for a talker, and it’s a minor miracle when he can express his needs. So for those of you who are reading this and want a video sense of what Dar is like (something I don’t
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Hairy Twitter and the Half-Baked Controversy

August 2, 2017, 11:33 am

Over the last few days, J.K. Rowling got herself into disability-related trouble. The basics of the case are here. The TL;DR version is that Rowling tweet-attacked Trump over mistreatment of a disabled child, the child’s parent corrected Rowling, and Rowling deleted the tweets and apologized to the family but not Trump. The TL;DR version of MY blog post is: keep up the good work, Joanne. Don’t let this setback change the way you advocate for society’s most vulnerable. Parents like me are counting
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Why Dar is Like Mister from The Color Purple

July 26, 2017, 3:40 pm

Dar’s new thing is not being able to live without me and/or wifey, especially in the evenings. He’s following us around the house more during the day, that’s for sure. I go upstairs to hit the head, I can almost be certain Dar will follow me. (In that particular scenario, I don’t mind, because I’m modeling behavior for him.) He tracks me around the halls, the garage, the laundry room. Not all the time. Dar still spends a great deal
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DSR <3 H2O

July 19, 2017, 1:13 am

Have I mentioned Dar’s obsession with water? It’s worth a full post. Last month wifey and I were considering buying a house down the street from us. The thing that I loved best about the house was that Strawberry Creek ran right next to it (if you know the Berkeley Rose Garden, the house borders the creek as it leaves the bandshell area), giving us a natural Japanese-like water feature. This also threatened to become the house’s worst problem, because
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