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Na Na Na Na, Na Na Na Na, Hey Hey Hey

June 4, 2020, 1:55 pm

I’ve created a monster. A monster of regression? Dar’s latest thing is coming up to me and saying “nuh” in an apparent effort to get me to say “no” in response. Is this as bad as a global pandemic or systemic racism? No, but others are better positioned to speak about those. How did this latest thing start? Well, it started because Dar asks for things. I sometimes refuse those things. I try to refuse in the nicest possible way.
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Shining

May 28, 2020, 8:15 am

Sometimes in my job as a film professor, the topic arises: why show certain things at all? For example, does any movie really need even a discreet rape scene? Why not just a title card that says “a rape happened” and move on? Why did anyone ever make The Human Centipede? Why show certain things, aren’t they only gonna give us nightmares? This is also known as My Mother’s General Case Against All Horror Movies. These days, I am so
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Just Another Week in Quarantine

May 21, 2020, 2:43 pm

This time, I’m not trying to be funny with the title. I mean it. Recently, a loyal reader told me “you’ve written a book” about Dar here. You won’t believe this, but I hadn’t really thought about it. I should try to compile this into a memoir…lord knows other parents of autistic children have done more with less. And by that I mean less words, less narrative, less compelling stories. Not lesser kids. I think they tend to like a
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Link Day

May 14, 2020, 12:55 pm

Longtime readers know that I never use a blog post just to link to other sites. Other blogs do that, but I’ve been updating this blog (usually) weekly for six years and haven’t done that…until now. I mean, if this virus can disrupt everything else, why not this blog? Just thought you might want to know what we’re reading that’s about autism and the coronavirus. Is it hard to be in a house 24/7 with Dar? Sure. And maybe reading
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Warp and woof

May 7, 2020, 4:26 pm

This week this blog is a COVID-free zone. For some, that’s not working. For others, that’s absolutely working. If you’re in the latter group, read on, MacDuff. I have always felt a special affinity for animals, especially mammals. I knew well before I got my first tattoo that it would have to be of a mammal, preferably one that nobody else had a tattoo of. (It’s a walrus.) I wanted my first kid’s name to refer to that guy who
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What’s Up, Doc

April 29, 2020, 11:11 am

Dar was rushed to medical care yesterday! Like you, I’m guessing, we have been so, so, so, careful not to get sick since the quarantine began. Wearing socks in the house at all times. Drinking fluids like they’re going out of Netflix. Et cetera. It all reminds me of my protocol the day before an international flight. I don’t skip stairs, I grip water glasses carefully, I don’t touch common surfaces, I avoid suspicious food. Probably I’m a lunatic, but
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Lockdown and Load

April 23, 2020, 6:45 am

I want to start with so much love and gratitude for health-care workers and hospital workers as well as all the delivery drivers and various service providers that are all risking their lives for the rest of us. THANK YOU AND WE OWE YOU MORE THAN THANKS. Welcome back to the blog! I have fixed the mobile settings so that now when you bring it up on your phone, you shouldn’t see four-year-old articles and should instead see something like
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“Ah, nothing’s ever easy.” – my friend Dylan in New Zealand

April 9, 2020, 4:27 pm

For my new book Blockbuster Performances, I asked my friend Dylan, who designs book covers among other things, if he might like to throw something together about actors and big-budget films. He came up with some amazing ideas. But then…Palgrave Macmillan clamped down and, long story short, required a certain kind of cover. I hated having to email Dylan the bad news, but when I did he replied cheerfully “Ah, nothing’s ever easy” and then moved on to the next
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Happy Autism-Awareness-Coronavirus Month!

April 2, 2020, 9:54 am

Happy Autism Awareness Day! And how’s your Autism Awareness Month going? In our little family, the phrase “autism awareness” has more meanings than we want it to. Of course, there’s the topic of this post – raising your (and general) awareness about my son’s autism. But then there’s also that child’s lack of awareness as caused by autism. He’s 10 years old can’t count to 10. He doesn’t know how to use the toilet or how to say yes and
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Not now: “Imagine.” Now: “Instant Karma (We All Shine On)”

March 20, 2020, 12:17 pm

This is about Dar and your and my coronavirus fears, but give me a minute to get there. I know America hasn’t been united much lately, which is why it’s so nice to see that America managed to unite in hatred against the video of celebrities in isolation singing along to John Lennon’s “Imagine.” Well, it’s still one of my favorite songs. At my mother’s funeral service at the Berkeley Rose Garden, 15 years ago, 100 or so people sang
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